Get Connected...Be Connected...Stay Connected!
In the "Between Men and Women" Online Couples Communication Workshop, you will cement PEACE, TRUST, CONNECTION and FUN without being blamed, judged or digging into your past.
January
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- NEXT "BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN" ONLINE WORKSHOP
- Start: Saturday, January 30, 2021 at 8:30am Mountain
- End: Sunday, January 31, 2021 at 5pm Mountain
I Love What I Do Because I Help People...
LEVEL-UP...WITH EASE!
Take your relationship to the next level by focusing on the key 20% of actions that make 80% of the difference in relationship.
GROW AND MAINTAIN CONNECTION
The Sacred Circuit™ gives you access to a vibrant, easy flowing connection where you each get what you need to be happy, fulfilled and satisfied.
STOP OR PREVENT POWER STRUGGLE
Discover how to prevent the buildup of resentments so you actually enjoy making plans and creating a future you love.
If This Is You...
- You want to take your relationship from good to great.
- You want to be one of the 15% of couples who are truly happy in their relationship.
- You want to proactively avoid the hidden pitfalls that sneak up on so many couples.
- You want proven techniques that take the guess-work out of what it takes to be genuinely happy in marriage.
- You want all of the above without either of you having to compromise who you are.
...Then there's no better place to be right now than right here!
Here's why...
...Because I Know All About Wanting
More From Relationship!
Hi! I'm Donna Tosky, Couples Communication Strategist and Coach.
Over almost 15 years, I've helped 100's of couples to deeply reconnect through a unique communication system that renews, refreshes and rebuilds their commitment to their marriage.
Your relationship is important to you. In all likelihood, it's one of the most important parts of your life. My single driving purpose is to support couples in maintaining and building the peace of mind, connectedness and fun they deserve without having to compromise who they are.
Throughout my 14 year marriage, which was very difficult and challenging, I knew that type of relationship was possible. I dreamed of an intimate relationship in which my partner was also my best friend. My relentless search for what was missing in my marriage, including my own role in the breakdown, was a journey so eye-opening that I had to share it with others, and I've been doing just that for almost 15 years.
Jason joined me in 2007, and as a team, we've delivered the SPARK Communication Success System, and brought lasting re-connection to hundreds of couples through our group retreats and couples programs.
This page is about what we do, how we do it, and most importantly, what's available for YOU when you choose to participate in a "Between Men and Women" Online Couples Communication Workshop.
Welcome to "Between Men and Women"! Enjoy your stay, and if you have any questions, our contact information is at the bottom of this page, so feel free to get in touch.
To Your Greatness!!
~Donna Tosky, Couples Communication Strategist
Take On The Game Of Life As A Team
Life presents us with a lot...marriage, family, careers, health challenges, financial difficulties, deaths and births, graduations, empty nesting, retirement. Beginnings and ends. Joys and sadnesses.
The good times are heightened when they are shared with a committed partner. The challenges are dulled when addressed together, side-by-side.
Changes in life prove to be the biggest cause of breakdown in marriage. Even if things are good for you now, I know you have a sense of what I mean. Challenges are amplified when you feel like you are going through them alone. Feeling alone often comes from the two of you not being on the same page - one or both of you thinks the other should be responding in a certain way. When that doesn't happen we think, "How can he not see what I see?", or "Why doesn't she listen to me?"
The "Between Men and Women" Online Couples Communication Workshop gives you the answers to those questions and many, many more...better now than after years of struggle.
The Biggest Problem Is That People Wait Until Things Get Out of Hand ... And Then Pay The Price!
Research shows that couples typically wait 6 years before doing something about the breakdown in their relationship.
Breakdowns happen for everyone. That's normal. Your success in preventing them, and your response to those that occur, are what determines the trajectory of your relationship and marriage.
It's when breakdowns go unaddressed or are addressed ineffectively and fester over time that problems become hard to manage. And there's a cost to that delay...
- Stress affects our health.
- Kids pick up on the tension and it affects them today and in the future.
- Finances suffer when spouses can't talk to each other openly.
- Unresolved hurt feelings cause emotional pain that's always present.
- Work performance and / or businesses can suffer.
- Your overall quality of life erodes until you've forgotten how it used to be.
- Divorce can cost $10,000's in fees and lost assets, not to mention the loss of your vision for the life you wanted.
What Can You Do To Cement Trust, Connection and Fun In Your Relationship?
The quick answer is...Get the right tools to prevent breakdowns or to address them quickly and easily so they never take hold.
We're not taught how to have great relationships We should be. It should be required learning at some level.
Until then, we need something that works. Marriage counselling and therapy work for some, but these are reactive measures...they seek to address problems after they have gotten out of control.
Prevention is the key. Couples need to learn how to prevent challenges from showing up, or how to stop them in their tracks so they never have a chance to take hold. That's how you ensure that you can create, maintain and grow the CONNECTION, PEACE OF MIND and FRIENDSHIP you have today.
The "Between Men And Women" Online Couples Communication Workshop Has Been The Answer For 100's Of Couples.
A comment we get consistently from clients is that the retreat was "easier" than they expected. What they mean is that they expected it to be uncomfortable and painful, and it wasn't. They were pleasantly surprised to say the least.
I felt comfortable right from the beginning of the retreat. I learned how a woman thinks, and how being a man can contribute to her realising her needs and wants. Seeing my wife be comfortable as a woman is my goal. It makes me feel like a true man.”
Aaron Hudkins, Heavy Equipment Operator (Lacombe, Alberta)
You see, there's a common belief...a myth...that for transformation to occur in relationship you have to focus on the "problem", the pain point and/or the breakdown. As a result, clients have confided in us that prior to the retreat, they were nervous that during the weekend they would feel uncomfortable, be put on the spot, be made wrong, or be blamed. This is particularly a concern for men. This perception is unfortunate because it stops people from taking the action that will move them forward in life and relationship.
It's our promise that your "Between Men and Women" journey will be a pleasant surprise. You won't be blamed or made wrong. You won't experience confrontation, and it won't be painful.
How can we make such a claim? If we don't focus on the "problem", you might be asking yourself, how will you get results? That's a great question.
After leading "Between Men and Women" Online Couples Communication Workshops for almost 15 years, we know that the problems our clients experience (i.e., poor communication, disagreements over finances, etc.) are real, but they are not the ROOT problem.
The root cause of problems that show up in many relationships is the "context" in which the relationship exists. Rather than focusing on the immediate issues that dominate the foreground (like money, infidelity, or communication), our focus is on the root cause. We focus on the background of the relationship.
In other words, we focus on the context, or the environment, in which the relationship takes place. This context is hidden from view. It includes how men and women "hold" one another. How they view one another. It's about the understanding, or lack there of, of who their partner is - who they are naturally and fundamentally.
Think of it like this. Imagine crossing a dark room that is full of furniture. Every few steps you're likely to bump into a couch, or a love seat and then bang your knee on a coffee table. While crossing the dark room, the furniture occurs as a problem.
Now imagine entering the same room. This time, however, there is a light switch on the wall by the door. Before entering the room you switch on the lights, and make your way across the room without a single bump, nick or scratch. The furniture is in the exact same place as in the first room. In this case, however, the context is different. The environment has changed because the lights are on. With this new context, the problem of the furniture is easily navigated.
The same is true in your relationship. The furniture of your relationship, so-to-speak, are the problems you are dealing with...poor communication, infidelity, arguments over money, him not seeming to listen, her changing her mind. Whatever it is for you.
In "Between Men and Women", we don't need to go into the details of these issues because we turn the lights on. When the lights are turned on - i.e., when you understand who you and your partner really are; when you get how different you are and why - the context of your relationship shifts naturally and permanently. The edge is taken off your problems almost immediately. You will be much better equipped to navigate the room of your relationship with the light of this new awareness shining brightly. You will stop bumping up against your partner as often.
While we don't focus on any individual couple's problems during the retreat, we want to know what problems you are experiencing so that we know what "lights" to turn on. That's why Donna has a "Discovery Call" with each individual participant before the workshop. By understanding the issues in the room, she can target the conversation appropriately to ensure that your particular light gets turned on, allowing you to navigate your relationship with greater ease, peace of mind and enjoyment.
What "Between Men And Women" Is...And What It Is Not
"Between Men and Women" IS:
- Practical - We provide research-based strategies for avoiding and dealing with conflict.
- Educational - Get new understandings of who you and your partner are naturally so that you can avoid or limit conflict.
- User-friendly - You are never judged or made wrong.
- Self-Affirming - We do not ask you to change. You're perfect just as you are.
- Experiential - You'll immediately relate to the content and see it's relevance in your life today.
"Between Men and Women" is NOT:
- Therapy or counselling.
- Heavy or dramatic.
- We never ask you to speak if you don't want to.
- We don't delve into your past or your "issues".
- There are no uncomfortable exercises to do.
During Your Workshop You Will Discover...
What Makes Him Tick
- Discover up to 32 traits common to all men.
"I never felt any judgement. My new knowledge of men has given me empathy. I feel more confident now, and I feel like my marriage is worth working on. We also have a better understanding of each other’s feelings."
- Chelsey Hudkins, Community Support Worker (Lacombe, Alberta)
What Makes Her Tick
- Discover as many as 34 characteristics of women.
“It was an amazing program! It will change how I interact with everybody. I got a lot of insight into whom, and how, women are. This will have a profound and lasting affect on how I live my life.”
- Jan Bieber (male), Self-Employed (Calgary, Alberta)
Understand The 2 Unique Conversational Styles Men and Women Use
- Learning why and how men and women communicate differently will keep conversations productive and help avoid misunderstandings.
"I saw that changing our communication was the most powerful way to improve our marriage. I feel more committed and more connected to my wife. I believe that this retreat will continue to improve our marriage for the entire length of it.”
- Jason Hellman, Ag Farm Manager (Fox Valley Saskatchewan)
Harness The Energy Of Giving And Receiving
- Putting the natural energic flow of giving and receiving to work for you will generate connectedness and intimacy between you and your partner.
“I learned a lot about myself, especially how my relationship to what I want impacts my relationship with my husband. ‘Clean desire' can move our marriage from good to great. Others should take this workshop.”
- Juanita Calvert, Office Manager (Nanton, Alberta)
Lifting The Veil On What Women Really Want
- We will answer, simply and clearly, the age-old question, “What do women want?” Men love knowing it, and women love that men know it.
“The hero knows what a woman really wants, and when he’s not guessing, he’s really a hero!”
- Janet Gurtler, Writer/Member – Romance Writers Of America
What A Man Wants
- Women will be surprised...and delighted! While this is the shortest conversation of the weekend, it speaks volumes about the essence of who men are.
“The best part of the program was what I learned from the men in our group. It was mind-boggling! It was momentous! I was inspired. As I write this I am planning my wedding. I’m going to marry the most beautiful, simple, walk-the-line guy (and they are ALL beautiful, simple, walk-the-line guys – we just don’t know how to treat them right!). Our relationship is uncommonly open and bright and amazing, and I owe it all to this course.”
- Vickie (Manchester, England)
Women and Anger...A Complex Relationship
- There is a low-grade anger women feel that they can't quite put their finger on, and it's often directed toward men. This conversation de-mystifies where that anger comes from and why.
“I now have a better understanding of women and myself. I won’t take things said by women personally. As a result, I will be able to expand my awareness, in relationship with women, of their needs and desires. I would highly recommend this workshop to anyone looking for growth in their relationships and a better understanding of the role of gender in relationships."
- Paul Bedford , (Canmore, Alberta)
Ways Women Can Unknowingly Disempower Men
- The tone of her voice, a sigh, the look in her eye, not to mention the words she uses have a far greater impact on men than most women realise.
“I realized during the (writer’s) workshop that I wasn’t letting my hero be heroic for my heroine in my work and in my own life."
- Vivi Anna, Author & President of Calgary Chapter - Romance Writers of America
How To Have A Man Gladly Give You What You Want
- When women know how to ask for and receive what they want in a way that has him feel good, he will gladly produce it. Everyone wins!
“Before the workshop I had a concern/doubt that starting our business together as a couple may not work given our past patterns of conflict. I now see that we can have an amazing business together even just by being clear on what I want and recognizing that he is willing to give me what I want. All there is for me to do is to Dance with our needs as opposed to battling with them. I would highly recommend this workshop to any couple or single who is up to creating awesome relationships with the opposite sex."
- Marie Oliver, Real Estate Associate (Lethbridge, Alberta)
And, of course, there's the Saturday evening group exercise.
- While the Saturday evening "Date Night" is fun (in fact, it's generally said to be the best part of the weekend!), it is an important exercise and a required component of the retreat.
"Between Men and Women" Retreat participants out for the Saturday night exercise. (July 2017)
Key Benefits You Will Enjoy...
- UNCOMMON CONNECTION AND INTIMACY when you understand your partner's world and they understand yours.
- IT'S EASY. ONCE YOU LEARN IT, YOU CAN LIVE IT. It's a simple model that you will be able to apply in your relationship yourself without becoming dependent on us.
- EXPONENTIALLY IMPROVE YOUR COMMUNICATION. We shine a light on how men and women communicate, and we also share simple communication strategies that will allow you to avoid inadvertently provoking defensiveness and arguments.
- FEEL COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN. Know that you're not crazy and that you do matter. Both men and women will come away feeling self-assured and more confident in themselves and in the future of their marriage.
- DISCOVER THE GOOD IN ANY CIRCUMSTANCE. "Between Men and Women" shifts your perspective on your partner so that you see the good in them and in every circumstance. This simple change in perspective will dramatically improve the quality of your relationship.
- IMMEDIATE STRESS REDUCTION. "Between Men and Women" is all about understanding one another so that you can avoid unrealistic expectations, build trust and know that you have each other's back.
- LEARN HOW TO AVOID RELATIONSHIP HABITS THAT DON'T SERVE YOU. The retreat will open your eyes to news ways of being with your partner, ways of being that promote productive and affirming habits of relating.
- GET NEW ACCESS TO WORKING POWERFULLY TOGETHER. The understandings that come from completing "Between Men and Women" will help you optimize your ability to work effectively and peacefully together to create the lives you want.
WHAT TO EXPECT FROM YOUR "BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN" WORKSHOP
BEFORE YOUR WORKSHOP - 1 ON 1 PRE-WORKSHOP DISCOVERY CALL
You will enjoy a valuable 1-on-1 Discovery Call with Donna approximately 1-2 weeks before your event. Donna will speak with each individual separately. The purpose of the call is to:
- Understand your situation.
- Learn what you want to get from your weekend so Donna can ensure your goals are addressed.
- Answer any questions or concerns you have about how the weekend will go.
We will contact you as the workshop approaches to request a few times that will be convenient for Donna to call you.
DURING YOUR WORKSHOP
During the workshop you will have the opportunity to:
- Ask Donna questions via the chat function and using the interactive features of the Zoom software we use.
- Build relationships with other participants.
- Learn from the experience of other attendees. You'll get that you're not alone in what you're experiencing in your relationship.
- Enjoy the fresh and unique content in the comfort and safety of your own home.
- Participate in the fun and eye-opening Saturday night "Date Night" experience.
Here's what you get when you attend the "Between Men and Women" Online Couples Communication Workshop:
- Approximately 12 hours of conversational-style content over two days delivered online via a livestreaming software called "Zoom" (see above for a detailed overview of what we cover).
- Donna's 15+ years of experience working with 100's of couples just like you.
- A relaxed and casual environment. No one will ever be forced to talk or be put on the spot.
Regularly $797...Now Just $497 Plus 5% GST For a Limited Time*
*PLEASE NOTE:
- The registration fee will be gradually returning to pre-COVID norms as the economy re-opens.
- The price is the same whether registering as a single or a couple.
- This price is available for a limited time.
"MAKE 2021 BETTER" COMMUNICATION REJUVENATION PACKAGE
BONUS OFFER HAS EXPIRED
We know 2020 was a challenge for a lot of relationships and revealed fault-lines that might have gone unnoticed or ignored before the pandemic.
To get your relationship started on the right foot in 2021, when you purchase the "Make 2021 Better" Communication Rejuvenation Package before January 11, not only will you be able to attend any ONE (1) "Between Men and Women" Online Communications Workshop between now and the end of June 2021, you will also get the following bonuses:
BONUS #1 - "Communicate to Connect" Mini-Course
Discover and Master the Simplest, most Powerful Tool to Rebuild Trust and Safety in ALL of Your Relationships!
In 5 easy-to-consume video modules, this bonus course teaches both partners one of the most important skills for maintaining safety and connection in relationship - How to truly "GET" one another through VALIDATION!
Being validated is critical if:
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- You are dealing with a particular area of conflict and you want to be heard;
- Either one, or both of you, have a habit of not listening to one another; or
- One of you doesn't talk much and is having difficulty carrying your weight in the conversation.
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Why don't people validate one another in the first place?
Often they may be afraid they will have to lose their own perspective - in other words, they will have to agree with their partner and lose themselves. Or, they don't really know what they are supposed to be validating in the first place, or how to validate.
Being seen, heard and validated is one of the most important gifts you can provide, or be given, in a relationship. In "Communicate to Connect" you will discover:
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- The seldom practiced critical communication skill that can RENEW, REPAIR or RECREATE a healthy satisfying relationship.
- A simple 3-step system that shows you exactly how to affirm another person's experience so they FEEL SEEN, HEARD AND UNDERSTOOD.
- How to show your partner / spouse how to VALIDATE YOU!
- How to move away from conflict quickly and get back to EASE, FUN AND CONNECTION.
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**OFFER EXPIRED JANUARY 11, 2021**
BONUS #2 - "How to Avoid the Most Common Communication Catastrophes" Webinar
How to "Clean Up" Your Communication to Avoid Unnecessary Arguments, to Diffuse and Prevent Resentment, and to Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Connection!
Are you speaking in a threatening tone without realising it? Do you or your partner compare one another to other people - a Mother, Father, past boyfriend / girlfriend / spouse, or an ideal one of you has about how a partner should be?
In "How to Avoid the Most Common Communication Catastrophes", you'll learn just that - How to clean up your communication to replace misunderstandings, resentment and frustration, with PEACE, UNDERSTANDING and, well, EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION!
You will discover:
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- How your "yuckie" everyday language can be causing unwanted resentment.
- Clear and valuable tips to stop sabotaging your connection instantly.
- The exact scripts for transforming threatening "YOU" statements into empowering "I" statements.
- AND MORE!
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**BONUS OFFER EXPIRED JANUARY 11, 2021**
BONUS #3 - One Free "Couples Care" Private Coaching Session Per Couple
Get Private Coaching from Donna to Cement Your Learnings from the Workshop, to Get Questions Answered, and to Apply the Model More Deeply to Your Specific Situation!
When Donna coaches, she doesn't watch the clock, and she is fully committed to getting results.
You will get the full benefit of her 15+ years of experience helping couples rebuild their connection and taking their relationship to the next level.
During your free session you can:
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- Have Donna's full attention during the 60-90 minute session (as we said Donna doesn't watch the clock but most sessions tend to go about this long);
- Get answers to questions that you didn't have time to ask or didn't feel comfortable asking during the group workshop, or that came up between the workshop and your private session;
- Enjoy peace of mind by getting expert advice on applying the model to specific situations in your relationship;
- Gain confidence in applying the model to your relationship in real life.
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NOTE: The free session with Donna takes place AFTER the workshop is done and must be completed within 2 weeks of finishing the workshop.
**BONUS OFFER EXPIRED JANUARY 11, 2021**
The next "Between Men and Women" Online Couples Communication Workshop is just a few weeks away. Most couples wait 6 years too long before getting the support they need. Why struggle any longer? Join us for an upcoming workshop and make 2021 the year you experienced the relationship you've always wanted and deserve.
Here's what you get when you register:
Attend the next 2-Day "Between Men and Women" Online Workshop - Regularly $797
During 12 hours of judgement-free expert guidance, discover keys to finally being Heard, Understood and Appreciated by learning who you each are naturally.
BONUS #1 - "Communicate to Connect" Video Course - Retail Cost $47
(OFFER EXPIRED)
Discover how to validate your partner, and how to be validated, as a key skill for maintaining safety and connection in your relationship.BONUS #2 - "Avoid Communication Catastrophes" Webinar - Retail Cost $67
(OFFER EXPIRED)
Discover simple tips and scripts for cleaning up your communication so that potential misunderstandings, resentments and frustrations, are transformed into PEACE, UNDERSTANDING and, EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION!BONUS #3 - One "Couples Care" Private Coaching Session Per Couple - Retail Cost $150
(OFFER EXPIRED)
Get Private Coaching from Donna to cement your learnings from the workshop, to get questions answered, and to apply the model more deeply to your specific situation!
TOTAL PACKAGE VALUE = $797
But that's NOT what you'll pay!
To make the program more accessible for those impacted by COVID-19, you will receive a limited-time 38% savings and pay just...
REMEMBER...You get 12 hours of coaching, Donna's 15+ years of experience, and a relaxed judgment-free environment for just $497 plus GST!
Click here to register today!
QUESTIONS? - We're always available to answer your questions about the workshop. Never hesitate to contact us so we can help you see if "Between Men and Women" is right for you. Simply phone (403) 975-3723 or email donna@betweenmenandwomen.com . Thank you!
REFUND / CANCELLATION POLICY
When Attending a Workshop Online
We’re committed to making a difference in your relationship, but we can’t be more committed than you. We want you to have talked to your spouse about the event and to be sure that you’re in. We want you to be committed too. Our refund policy reflects that intention.
Full refunds (less the $100 / person non-refundable deposit) are available for registrations cancelled within 10 days of registering (refunds are processed within 30 days of receiving the written request). After 10 days, no refunds are available. Registrations received within 10 days of the start of your program must be paid in full at registration and are non-refundable. Payments already received prior to cancellation will be credited to a future program.
Since we can’t control technology, no refunds will be given if technical failures on your end or ours result in interrupted or lost Internet connections. That’s why we highly recommend:
- Joining the webinar using a desktop or laptop computer.
- Connecting your computer to you modem using an ethernet cable rather than wifi.
- Closing all other tabs on your computers.
- Shutting off other devices (cell phones, tablets, etc.) that use bandwidth.
We also can’t control how you participate, so we don’t offer refunds if for any reason you are unable to complete the workshop or if your participation is interrupted. We highly recommend doing your best to eliminate distractions and set aside the time to focus on the event. We know this can be difficult at times, which is why we make the slides available to participants after the workshop so you can catch up on anything you missed.
Finally, since this is an “information product” that can’t be returned after using it, no refunds will be given after the program has started.
Cancelling, Rescheduling or Postponing a Workshop by Organizers
Organizers make every and all efforts to ensure events are carried out as scheduled. Organizers, however, reserve the right to cancel, reschedule or postpone an event when very rare circumstances outside of their control create that necessity. Such circumstances include but are not limited to:
- a minimum attendance is not reached;
- natural disasters (including but not limited to floods, earthquakes, fires, tornadoes, severe weather, or other natural threats to the safety of organizers and participants);
- threats to public health and safety as announced by government and other public security officials;
- cancellation of an event reservation by the retreat's venue (for in-person events);
- Serious personal health conditions that result in the hospitalization of, or otherwise incapacitate the facilitator(s).
In such rare instances, organizers will attempt to provide as much advanced notice of the change in the event's schedule as possible. Registrations already received at the time of cancellation, rescheduling or postponement will be transferred to the next scheduled event, or another Between Men and Women workshop that fits the participant's schedule. No refunds will be processed. For in-person events, organizers will not be responsible for reimbursing airfare, accommodations or other travel related expenses that participants may incur as a result of, or have already incurred prior to the cancellation, rescheduling or postponement of an event. For this reason, we suggest that participants who must travel to attend a retreat purchase travel cancellation insurance from their service provider.
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